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  • How I spent 4 days in Iceland

    I kicked off 2024 in the best way ever – I booked the first week of January off work and travelled to one of my bucket list destinations….Iceland!

    Despite the fact that I turned 40 last year, this trip marks the last of my milestone birthday travels (I’ve previously posted about my big birthday vacay to St Lucia but there’s a few more I’m yet to share…I’m very behind!)

    I’ve broken the trip down day by day so you can see what we did and our thoughts. Hopefully this is helpful if you’re planning a visit to Iceland (or are considering one) or just fun to read if you like hearing about people’s holidays!

    Day 1 – Travel day and first impressions of Reykjavik

    We had a 7am flight and landed at Keflavik airport at around 9.40am – I had no idea the flight was so short!

    Keflavik is one of those confusing airports where you have to walk through the departure lounge to get to arrivals (not the greatest when you’ve been awake since 3.30am) – by the time you see the ‘Exit to Iceland’ sign you still have to go through passport control AND baggage claim!

    After grabbing our bags and hopping on our transfer bus, it was a 45min transfer to Reykjavik. Icelandic hotel check-in time is 12 noon, so we were able to get in and drop off our stuff as soon as we were dropped off. After a quick change we headed out to explore the centre  of Reykjavik.

    I have to say, Reykjavik is a lovely city – extremely clean, easy to navigate and picturesque buildings / landscape that looks like it belongs in a festive Hallmark movie (as it was right after New Year everywhere still had their Christmas decorations up, which added to the magic).

    We started off on Laugavegur (Main Street) then took a stroll up Rainbow Road to get to the iconic Hallgrímskirkja Church.

    This may be an odd way to describe a religious building, but this is one of the chicest looking churches I’ve ever visited!

    The real reason we were there is for the view from its bell tower. We popped into the gift shop and paid about 1400 ISK (approx. £8) to ride a reasonably small lift 8 floors up (there’s another 2 floors of stairs to climb after that) and the views over all sides of the city made this absolutely worth the money.

    Next, feeling a bit peckish, we stopped off for one of Reykjavik’s street vendors to try a traditional Icelandic hot dog. Between the 2 of us we had an original one with ‘the works’ (lamb sausage, fried onions, crispy onions and 2 sauces that are a mixture of mayo, mustard and tomato ketchup) and a pulled lamb with bernaise sauce. At 700 ISK (around £4) it was the cheapest meal we had during our stay and hit the spot for a quick bite on the move.

    With room left for dessert, our next stop was to try another Icelandic delicacy – the cinnamon bun. We chose to stop at Braud & Co because it was coincidentally about 100m away from the hot dog stand. I’d seen it a lot on social media and the outside was also really pretty and decorated in some of Reykjavik’s iconic street art. I had heard that it can get quite busy here, but on the 2 occasions we visited (a Wednesday and Saturday afternoon in January) we were able walk in and be served after a very short wait.

    I paid about 750 ISK (£4.50) and this is some of the best money I spent. EVER. what looked like a powdery dry pastry on the outside turned out to be a taste explosion of warm, apple and cinnamon-ey goodness (yep, there was apple in there too. I wondered why it felt so heavy!) I now understand why people claim that Iceland has the best bakeries.

    Strolling to the other side of Reykjavik (stopping to admire so many traditional and twinkly buildings along the way) we arrived at Fly Over Iceland .

    Fly Over Iceland is a 5D experiential cinema that allows you to virtually “fly over” the entire country across all 4 seasons. I enjoyed this activity – at 5425 ISK (approx. £31) it’s one of the most affordable ‘trips’ to do in Iceland, however the entire paid experience lasts for about 20-25 mins (there are 2 other film experiences to watch before you do the main fly over, which is about 15mins of this) so would’ve liked this to be just a little bit cheaper. There’s a really nice cafe area before/after the main attraction where you can enjoy a warming hot chocolate (or, if you’re a bit weird like me, an ice hazelnut latte in -5°C weather) and a snack.

    On our stroll back into the city centre we bumped into local legend Jólakötturinn, the Iceland Christmas Cat

    We were VERY well aware before travelling to Iceland that everything is very expensive, but on arrival we found out that a lot of bars  offer a Happy Hour in the afternoon/early evening (most seemed to be 5-7pm but some start as early as midday) so we decided to investgate further. We found out 2 things – 1, the drink options are largely limited to just Beer/Wine/Prosecco (bad news for cocktail drinkers like me, although the odd place do discount offer them slightly) and 2, the discount made the drinks go from a higher end London price (£15-20ish for a small glass of prosecco) to a slightly more reasonably but ‘still pricey for what it is’ (around £8)

    Then on to dinner at the highly recommended Bastard Brew & Food (to anticipate your next question – we did ask, and the staff have no idea how it got its name).

    It’s a cool bar with more relaxed choices on the menu (think burgers, tacos and small plates) in addition to a pretty decent gin selection (we felt duty bound to try out a couple of local brands to really get the authentic experience). The food was delicious and would definitely recommend.

    Day 2 – Golden Circle and hunt for the Northern Lights

    Booking a trip to the Golden Circle is very easy to do through lots of different companies, before or after you arrive in Iceland (and to be honest, the main roads leading to each site are very clear and sturdy so it would be really easy to hire a car and do it). All of the sites we stopped at also had really nice facilities to stop and have something to eat/drink, visit the toilet and buy Icelandic souvenirs (everything is pretty pricey, but no more so than anywhere else in the country).

    We were collected at 8.30am when it was still pitch back outside, but by the time we’d driven an hour an half into the middle of nowhere the sun was rising and our first stop was bathed in a beautiful golden hour glow.

    Each trip takes a slightly different route, but our first stop was at the Geysirs; pools of boiling hot water that steam up and explode every 5-10 minutes. It’s difficult to capture on camera, but somehow I managed it!

    Onto stop number 2 (and probably one of the most photographed ) – Gulfoss.

    This waterfall, like many in Iceland to be honest, is beautiful (especially with the snow and ice backdrop) and gets its water supply from the glacier sitting behind it (a fact we found on day 3) which is clearly very strong because it was very loud, even from the distance away that we viewed it from.

    Final stop of the day – Thingvellir tectonic plates.

    This is a literal crack in the land and really reminds you of the volatile and ever-changing Earth that formed Iceland in the first place.

    The walkway developed between the cracks signifies the boundary between the North American and Eurasian territories.

    Although interesting, this was my least favourite stop of the trip as there wasn’t much more to view in or from the plates. Plus, it was a lot more icy than the other stops that made the experience feel a bit more tricky to move around.

    The one slight disappointments with this trip is that the company we booked through (Tui) didn’t visit one of the stops that I was most looking forward to seeing – Kerid Crater. Because I’d seen this on every other Golden Circle itinerary I presumed every tour went there, so had I have known I would’ve booked with another operator.

    For dinner we tried a traditional Icelandic food concept (but not food) and headed out to a Food Hall close to our hotel (there are a few around the city of varying size/variety/decor style). Although this gave us the chance to eat and drink a few different styles of food and although this was a more relaxed dining experience, the prices were pretty much on par with a regular restaurant.

    After food, we went to hunt for the Northern Lights (this was supposed to happen on day 1, but it was too cloudy so the tour operator moved posponed).

    We were collected at around 9pm told that we’d be viewing the lights from a golf course and there’d be hot drinks available for purchase from the club house. I had romanticised visions of standing out on a snow covered green, sipping on hot chocolate whilst marvelling at a spectacular light show courtesy of Mother Nature.

    The reality was quite different.

    We ended up being ushered to the car park and, although being assured it had been covered with sand it was not too dissimilar for an ice rink (but in the pitch black). I also learnt (slightly disappointingly) that the majority of ‘low level’ sightings of the Northern Lights can’t be seen by the naked eye (so those specular dancing displays you may have spotted online are not always the norm). In order to see what we captured in these photos, we had to hold our phones up to the sky and scan around a bit (there’s a short video in my Instagram highlights that shows how the colours suddenly appeared in pitch black sky when we turned on the camer). I think what we saw was catehoried as ‘level 2’ sighting, I’m not sure how high the scale goes.

    Day 3 – Into the Glacier

    This day wasn’t on our itinerary until we arrived in Iceland and we booked on the coach transfer from our airport (a very efficient way to do things on a longer drive). The possibility of getting to go INSIDE a glacier is a pretty unique experience!

    We were collected at around 8am for this and drove for about 3 hours to get to our first destination (a fact that would have been handy to know in advance to advance plan for snacks and toilet breaks etc). Once we arrived in the middle of nowhere, we were almost immediately ushered onto this beast of a machine!

    Although this looks like a snow truck, it’s actually a repurposed missle vehicle that the company bought from NATO (which I think added even more interest to an already unique experience). The driver also has an app that he uses to inflate/deflate the tires based on the terrain to avoid getting stuck.

    After driving through mountains for another hour or so, we eventually arrived on top of the Glacier, aka The Middle of Nowhere. It felt so pure, empty and peaceful there, like nothing I’d ever experienced before.

    Then, it was time to go into the glacier (which does have a name, by the way, but I cannot for the life of me remember it. I do remember that it sits dieectly behind Gulfoss and is the waterfall’s source of water, as mentioned in day 2) through this rather nifty tunnel.

    We spent about 45mins insider, being led through a series of tunnels and understanding the history of the Glacier. The tunnels and rooms have been curated by architects and artists, not just some hollowed out ice. Weirdly, we also saw the presence of volcanic ash that had settled on some of the walls from the 2010 erruotion (you know, the one that the their entire world’s air traffic into chaos and grounded all flights)

    Some of the areas weren’t available for us to visit on the day due to flooding, an operational risk of a natural and slightly unpredictable entity.

    A couple of points I’d like to highlight, pre-empting people may point out that this kind of ‘tourist attraction’ is contributing to decline of nature and global warming etc. The team at Into the Glacier went to great lengths to tell and show us how considerately they worked to create a space that’s attractive whilst remaining responsible to the environment and preserving the glacier. Christmas lights are used inside to provide light without generating additional heat, and spiked crampons aren’t permitted so that the flooring isn’t punctured in any way (the staff provide appropriate ones for you). Further to this; on the ascent to the glacier we could see markers that highlighted the shrinkage of the Glacier every 20 years since the 1960s (the tunnels have only been open to the public since 2019) and the rate of decline due to global warming was consistent long before people started visiting daily.

    After cruising back down the mountains on our NATO vehicle, we hopped back on the coach for our final stop of the trip, Hraunfossar Waterfall.

    I’m not sure if it was because is was snowing, the appearance of the black rock against the water or vantage point was just better, but I thought this waterfall was even prettier than Gulfoss (and not one I’d really heard about in my pre-trip research). There is a small cafe/shop here with a very limited selection of food/drink and toilets (additional charge) for a quick comfort break.

    We enjoyed the actual in-glacier experience and seeing the waterfall, however I’m on the fence as to whether I’d book this again. The time spent on the coach (about 6hrs) far surpassed time on and inside the glacier (about an hour), there were no comfort/refreshment stops planned in to break up the journey. The price we paid for 2 adults was £425 (approx. 74,509 ISK) which only included the coach transfers and time in the glacier with a guide, which is pretty pricey for one activity with very little included.

    After a long day with no opportunity lunch, we headed straight out for dinner as soon as got back to Reykjavik, and we had just one dish on our mind….fish and chips.

    As a Northern gal, fish and chips is practically a diet staple, and apparently its the same here too. There were lots of restaurants offering this on the menu but we chose to eat at Reykjavik Fish because they had 3 locations very close to us that have  pretty decent Google and TripAdvisor ratings. We had the standard fish and chips either a glass of prosecco (fancy) with fresh tartar sauce and lemon, herb and dill sauce on the side. The food was served quickly, looked fresh and tasted delicious (and I’d some of the best sauces I’ve ever had with fish and chips).

    After dinner we took a stroll around the city to take in some more of the pretty traditional architecture against the backdrop of the moody night sky and twinkly Christmas lights. Then it was back to the hotel for a nightcap and early night before our final day.

    Day 4 – Sky Lagoon and slow afternoon in Reykjavik

    We decided to reward ourselves with a little R&R and slightly slower pace by heading to Sky Lagoon, the newest geothermal Spa to open in Iceland about 15 mins outside of Reykjavik. We booked with Sky Lagoon directly and chose the Sky package which included unlimited access to the thermal lagoon, private changing facilities and ond-time access to the 7 Step Ritual was cost 12,790 ISK (approx. £75) per adult. We also made our own way there by taxi so that we weren’t bound by certain times in case we wanted to stay longer/shorter, which cost between 3,500 – 4,300 ISK (£20-25) each way. Its also possibly to book a coach transfer independently or via the Sky Lagoon booking process which is cheaper and will collect from a designated bus stop around Reykjavik.

    We made our booking for 10am (first slot you can book is 9am) which meant we got to experience the Sky Lagoon in the dark, at sunrise and then daylight. This was an excellent decision on our part, especially because we saw the tiniest hint of Northern Lights before the sun came up!

    There’s a swim up bar so you can enjoy your tipple of choice (soft or alcoholic) whilst relaxing in the warm waters. To pay, a card authorisation is taken from you on arrival, and then the staff scan your wristband each time you make a purchase, which is then charged in full as you leave (for all purchases you make, not just from the bar). We had a couple of drinks each (plus a couple of tactical glasses of water to stay hydrated) which were both really tasty and priced similarly to drinks in other Reykjavik bars.

    Next, we headed to the 7 Step Ritual. If you’ve done a spa day before, this is basically another way of saying ‘Spa circuit’s you visit different stations.

    The lagoon is the first ‘step’, next you move on to a cold plunge pool before heading inside the main hut (I managed to dunk myself way all the way in and make a swift exit).

    Next up was the sauna, which has an amazing glass wall with views across the Reykjavik bay. Very relaxing and beautiful.

    Moving on to the cold shower mist, salt scrub (my skin felt amazingly smooth for a good couple of weeks after this), steam room and hot shower.

    Afterwards we spent more time in the lagoon before heading showering/changing and having a brief chill in the cafe.

    This place is absolutely worth the money and I would 100% put this on your to do list for a break in Iceland. The service was great and the whole place feels very premium (for obvious reasons, I wasn’t able to take any photos of the changing areas).

    Unfortunately I wasn’t able to do a comparison between Sky Lagoon and the Blue Lagoon as it was closed due to the recent volcanic eruptions during our stay.

    After arriving back into the city we headed straight to Svarta Kaffið for lunch. Here there’s just one item on the menu – soup served in a bread bowl. They offer 2 soup flavours, one meat and one vegetarian, which change daily. On the day we visited there was mushroom or Reindeer with truffle to choose from.

    Both the soup and bread were fresh and tasty, and very filling. However I will say that at 2,850 ISK (approx. £16) its definitely one of the priciest soup dishes I’ve ever eaten!

    After lunch it was time for a slow afternoon stroll to get our last daytime look at Reykjavik, do a little bit of shopping and sneak in one final cinnamon bun from Braud & Co. I also bought a slice of Hjónabandssæla, which translated to “happy marriage cake” to take back to our room for later. This was more of a dense tray bake style cake filled with fruity James and topped with a little bit of crumble. Equally as weightly and delicious as its cinnamon friend!

    For our last evening we had a couple of glasses of Happy Hour prosecco (I even wore a ‘normal outfit’ that didn’t involved loads of layers and snow boots, although my stripey top is thermal)

    For dinner we went to Islenski Barinn which was a recommendation from Tik Tok. On a side road just off the main shopping street, this place is popular with locals and tourists and booking is advised. We didnt book and simply took a chance popping in at around 6.45pm (it was already pretty busy) to see if they could squeeze us in and luckily they could, because about 10 minutes there was there was a line waiting half way down the street!

    There are lots of traditional Icelandic delicacies on the menu so taking full advantage we ordered whale finn, Icelandic crumpet, lamb and another fish and chips (for comparison purposes of course). Although we desperately wanted to finish with Icelandic pancakes, we were too full and took a slow walk back to the hotel through the city to enjoy a last look at Reykjavik at night.

    Things I learnt

    – Card payments are accepted virtually everywhere, even the tiny little independent or remote shops. We did take some cash (which we had to order a few days in advance as a specialist currency) but people were surprised when we used it.

    – Take a refillable water bottle with you so that you can top up water and stay hydrated whilst you’re out and about. There are fill up stations in a lot of main tourist areas, and Icelandic water is some of the best to drink in the world

    – In the winter there are very few hours of daylight, so you’ll find that most of the time you’re heading out and come back for the day in the dark.

    – For most people Iceland is a once in a lifetime destination, so try and cram as many things as possible into your time there. You will come home.tired but it will be worth it! There’s so many other things we doulsve loved to do if we were there for a bit longer (and had slightly deeper pockets) – Southern Iceland tour (Vik and the Black Sand Beach), Whale watching and the Perlan Museum were other possibles fro. My list.

    – Iceland is an extremely clean, friendly and happy country, and everyone communicated with us in English (there were a lot of American and Canadian workers too).

    What to wear (if visiting in winter)

    – It’s pretty casual, the majority of people are dressing for warmth and comfort so unless a restaurant or bar states a specific dress code (or you’re aware it’s a high end place) the embrace the more laid back.

    – I absolutely lived in my Lovall Winter Leggings you can see in the very first picture, with cosy jumpers and thermal layers underneath (all of my thermals and from the M&S Heatgen range) and some basic snow boots from Simply Be (which were I picked up with a Black Friday/ Pre-Christmas discount)

    – Winter accessories are important! A good hat and/or ear muffs, gloves (I had thermal wool pair mittens that turned into fingerless gloves for phone use, and a backup waterproof pair), snood/decent scarf and thermal socks. If you’re planning similar activities similar to those we did, also take some crampons (snow chains for your shoes) as they’ll help grip and generally help you feel more confident walking in slippery areas.

    Final thoughts…

    I have absolutely fallen in love with Iceland (Reykjavik in particular) as somewhere that feels so warm, even in minus temperatures, happy and safe. I would absolutely go back, recommend that you visit, I may even be googling average salaries and house prices as I type….

    Hope this post has been helpful / interesting and thanks for reading (I know it’s a little long!)

    J xx


  • Some of the best things to do in Saint Lucia

    In April I jetted off to the glorious island of St. Lucia as part of my 40th birthday celebrations. It’s somewhere I’ve wanted to go since my honeymoon 13 years ago and, after 2 failed attempts to make it to the Caribbean in 2020 and 2021, I finally made the dream come true!

    When it comes to big, potentially once in a lifetime vacations like this, I think its good to be a bit organised so that you can make the most of where you are and enjoy what somewhere has to offer, so before departing I made sure we booked some of these things to do around Saint Lucia to experience the islsnd:

    • Thermal Sulphur Springs, Mud Bath & Toraille Waterfall

    I feel like this place should be one for the ‘must do’ list if you have only have a certain amount of time or spending money available.

    To do the thermal springs you’ll need to enter a live volcano. Yes, you read that last sentence correctly! It hasn’t actually erupted for hundreds of years  (even then I believe it was a liquid-less explosion) but is live on a technicality as lava has been discovered bubbling under the surface.

    Once you’re lathered up in mud it’s time to take a dip in one of the three thermal pools. Like any good bath, it’s pretty hot once you start getting in but after a minute or so you’re acclimatised and it’s relaxingly warm. Scrub off the mud whilst you’re having a float about and your skin will be left feel super soft and delicious for days (maybe even weeks). I have enlarged pores around my cheeks and nose and the mid has done wonders to reduce their appearance.

    Couple of things to mention about this area – There are limited changing facilities on site but no storage lockers.If you’re visiting as part of an organised trip and with a guide, they may be able to keep hold of valuables and grab your phone to take photos of your experience, but if there’s a lot of people in your group you probably shouldn’t bank on this. Our visit was timed between one large group leaving and another arriving, which meant there weren’t many people around the share the facilities with or worry about taking anything, we felt pretty secure.

    Then onto the waterfall. Do not underestimate how powerful this seemingly small looking stream of water is!

    The pool of water itself was very stony and it took a couple of minutes to walk to the actually fall, where the temperature was described to us in advance as being “refreshing”. I couldn’t stay under there for very long as the  pressure and cold took my breath away, how people manage to take beautifully posed aesthetic photos I do not know!

    We booked a road tour through Viator (I cant find the exact tour we did to link) that was dedicated to visiting only these two locations. This included a guide, a few photo stops and also lunch. The journey from our part of the island was pretty long, although we did get to see some more of the local towns en route. There were also only 2 other people booked on the tour so it was essentially a private trip, and we were very impressed with our guide and driver. Had we have known this we may have opted to do a bigger tour by boat that would have combined this with a lovely day on a catamaran as well as heading into Soufriere (like this one).

    • See the Pitons

    There’s may ways you can do this – by boat, by land or by hiking right up the side of them! We were also lucky enough to catch a glimpse of them as we landed on the island (which is the title pic). Not being a hiking kind of a gal, I saw them as part of a road trip to the Thermal Baths when we stopped at a beautiful vantage point above the town of Soufriere.

    • Visit Pigeon Island

    Pigeon Island happened to be a very handy 30 minute walk away from our hotel. It’s a really interesting point of the island as it’s in between the Caribbean Sea and Atlantic Ocean – one side is reallt calm and chilled, the other is more lively and a bit wild (pic above is the Atlantic side, pic below is the Caribbean side).

    It was around $11 per adult for entry as it’s a National Park. There are some pretty ruins, lots of greenery, a couple of small beaches and some lovely vantage points to explore (there was also a cafe but we never managed to find it). It’s somewhere that’s great to spend a couple of hours or so as part of a day out.

    Just next to the island is a bigger beach with a couple of bars, so we stopped for a few glasses of rum punch and lunch before heading back (which definitely needed to be by taxi, the punch has quite a kick!)

    • Travel through the rainforest

    We actually found out about this activity thanks to Jane McDonald! When were researching St Lucia we ended up watching a travel show she did with Channel 5 where she travelled through the St Lucian rainforest on a tram.

    The tram seated up to 10 people with a guide (the staff are very health and safety conscious, so will assess the group and seat them so that the cable car is appropriately weighted) and for about and hour your drift casually up and down through the forest enjoying the tropical sights and sounds. Of course, wildlife spotting can be pretty unpredictable, but we managed to see a few hummingbirds and a parrot on our journey.

    After the cable car ride was over our guide took us on a nature walk around the rainforest floor where we got to experience Frankensence plants and tiny baby pineapples!

    We booked the rainforest adventure tram through Viatour which included pickup and drop off at the hotel and a small drink after the tour. There’s also an option to book directly with Rainforest Adventure and make your own way there. There was also an option to do a ziplining experience through the rainforest. 

    • Boat trip

    One thing I always try to seek out when I travel is a boat trip. The markers if a good boat trip for me are – not too many people, room to lay out and sunbathe, bit of a shade option, food is included.

    The boat we chose ended up having most of those things and was a really fun day (and perhaps a tiny bit raucous by the end!). Our trip was all day and included hotel transfers, unlimited drinks (water, soft drinks, vodka, rum and rum punch), buffet BBQ lunch and 3/4 swim stops that took in the Pitons and Marigot Bay.

    • Watch the sunset

    I mean, this one is a given when you’re in the Caribbean! We were very lucky that our hotel was right on the beach and overlooked the right side of the island to catch sunset, so most nights we could simply grab a drink from the  bar and wander down to relax and enjoy.

    We also booked a sunset catamaran cruise (although typically it was hella cloudy on the day we went). There are a few local companies that offer this – some are adults only, some include a buffet and/or an open bar and music.

    A few things to bear in mind before you travel:

    • If you’re planning to visit during peak times (such as during school holidays) it’s advisable to book things in advance to ensure you don’t miss out on what you really want to do. If you don’t get chance to book before you get to your resort, there may be a representative for the local tour companies based in the hotel that can talk to you about activities and book them for you.
    • Organised trips can be on the pricier side, so make sure you prepare your holiday budget for this
    • Make sure you know what your trios include/exclude so you know if you need to take anything extra with you such as water or snacks
    • Additionally, check if any specific attire is required for your activity so you know to pack it as part of your holiday wardrobe.
    • Have some days where you plan to do nothing, or at least not very much. You’ve probably paid a lot of money to stay in a beautiful hotel or resort that has a lot of offer, so make sure you enjoy that too!

    My trip to St. Lucia was one packed with laughter, fun and memories that will last a lifetime. I hope that by sharing some of them this will help you enjoy your visit just as much!

    Thanks for reading,

    J xx


  • 40 Things for 40

    Today I turn 40! Guess I’ll have to update my bio so it doesn’t say “thirty-something” anymore….

    I feel like it took me right up until the last couple of years in my 30s to really understand life and think “oh, THAT’S what it’s supposed to be about” thanks to all the many lessons I’ve learned, taught myself and observed along the way.

    I thought what better way to return to the Internet than to share some of those things – not to be preachy or think I’m some kind of oracle, simply in the hope that someone reading this may see something that resonates and helps them navigate their own journey. I’ve also included a few pics – some are of happy times, some mild chaos, some of not so great times. Balance.

    1. Having your shit together is an urban myth. Sometimes you’ll feel like you’re in control and winning, sometimes you’ll feel like you have 50 plates spinning at once and it’s too much.

    2. Don’t make permanent decisions off temporary emotions.

    3. Comparison is the thief of joy, but so is chewing yourself up with anxiety.

    4. You will not be thought of more favourably as an employee if you work loads of extra unpaid hours.

    5. You are not a bad employee if you work the amount of hours that you’re paid to work, or for taking breaks (see point 4).

    6. Your best years will be peppered throughout life, not just “when you’re young”.

    7. Don’t feel pressured into being around certain people or in certain situations because you’re told you should. Your comfort level, your life, your choice.

    8. Not every friendship will last a lifetime; some may not even last more than a day. That doesn’t mean it wasn’t worth it.

    9. Don’t get rid of every single item of clothing once you’re bored of it. In 10/15 years time when it’s back in style you may get seller’s remorse and feel the need to trawl ebay to try and buy it again.

    10. Fashion and style are different – fashion is what is “on trend” for the moment, style is what you like to wear and how you like to wear it. Prioritise style over fashion.

    11. You don’t have to be best mates with people at work, but you need to at least forge a professionally respectful and cordial relationship (and expect the same back).

    12. Taking photos or videos doesn’t mean you’re not present in the moment, it means to you can relive the moment aftwards. Strike a balance.

    13. There are some problems in life that are worth throwing a little money at (if you can) if you dont like dealing with them. For me, those things are DIY and gardening.

    14. Your home does not have to perfectly decorated and curated within weeks of moving in. It may not even be finished within years of you moving in.

    15. Love and hate take exactly the same amount of effort. Hate is not worth that much effort.

    16. A little imposter syndrome is fine; it reminds you that you may need to learn new skills and develop to keep moving forward.

    17. You can get a degree in your 30s that’s just as good as the people getting them in their 20s.

    18. You can pass your driving test, and be a good driver, in your 30s.

    19. You can be only useful to others if you’re looking after yourself properly.

    20. Spending and saving are just as important as each other; you shouldn’t do all of one and none of the other.

    21. If you don’t have to vacation during school holidays, don’t.

    22. If you have an overwhelming ‘To Do’ list, give yourself the “rule of 3” each day – write down your top 3 tasks that you must achieve that day, and as long as you’ve completed them you can go home a winner.

    23. If your partner is ruining your mascara because they make you cry with laughter, that’s a good thing.

    24. A bad day, bad week, or even a series of bad weeks, doesn’t mean it’s a bad life.

    25. Don’t ever close yourself off to meeting people or having new experiences because you think you have enough already.

    26. Always own your opinions, don’t try and pass them off as someone else’s. We know that’s what you’re doing.

    27. Respect that other people will make choices for their life that are different to yours and that you may not relate to.

    28. Be actively present in the art of relaxing/doing nothing.

    29. It’s good to look for silver lining, but realistically, you can’t reframe every situation into a positive. Sometimes you have to shrug your shoulders, say “well this is a bit shit” and do what you can to make the next day/week/month better.

    30. Try not to treat simple acts of self care as a chore. Rather than letting your mood determine whether you do self care, let doing self care determine your mood.

    31. What other people think of you is none of your business.

    32. You don’t have to have the most amazing night of your life on New Year’s Eve, or the most productive/healthy/vision boarded first week of January for your year to be successful. You have 365 days to have fun and take whatever time you need to set your goals.

    33. You mind doesnt necessarily age in line with each passing year. Your birth certificate may say you’re 40 but your mind still feels the same as it did when you were 17.

    34. Looking back can be a good thing, you can see how far you’ve come and reminisce over good times. The trick is to know what you’re looking back for and what to leave in the past.

    35. Don’t wait until you feel pretty enough, skinny enough, brave enough, to do the things you want in life.

    36. “Impersonating Beyoncè is not your destiny, child”. This quote reminds me that we’re all unique and shouldn’t strive to exactly replicate someone else’s life because it ‘looks’ perfect.

    37. If you don’t like content you see online, scroll past/mute/unfollow. Going out of your way to leave nasty and hateful comments will always say more about you than the person you’re targeting.

    38. Advocating for change, for yourself, for an apology or to highlight poor service does not automatically make you difficult or a “Karen”. Please don’t let a fear of how you will be perceived prevent you from speaking up if it’s something important to you..

    39. It’s not your age, it’s your stage. Just because others have done something at a certain age doesn’t mean you can’t or won’t do it at different age.

    40. The meaning of life – described perfectly by Jimmy Carr, is this “enjoying the passage of time”.

    Thanks for reading, here’s to chapter 40!

    J xx


  • Cool for the summer: hacks to help you through a heatwave

    Friends, it is HOT. Or as we say I the fair city of Hull, “It’s maftin’ “

    People like to berate the great British public for moaning about the heat, but let’s be honest – unless we’re on a sun lounger in swimwear sipping on something cold with our out of office firmly on, we’re simply not built. Our houses are built to keep heat in and without air-conditioning, and to be honest we never really know if and when the sun is gonna show up, let alone for how long or strong it’s rays may be.

    So let’s make sure we’re prepared; not just with the water and spf, but with other little tips and tricks to make the days (and nights) a little easier to deal with. Some of these you may already know and be reminded of, some you may not.

    Keep those curtains CLOSED

    Keep your curtains closed where possible to and open your windows (my opening windows are at each end, so I just keep the curtains open a bit) this removes the glare of the sun and helps get a bit of breeze flowing around the room.

    Get yourself a Cooling gel pillow

    Image credit: asda.co.uk

    This is currently one of the best things I own (shout out to the Mr for buying it as a rogue gift recently). Simply pop it in the fridge for a few hours and then lay it flat on your pillow or underneath your back and it’ll stay cool for an hour or 2 as your starting your sleep routine (My pal Alex lives in Greece and is a trainee sleep coach, she also suggests putting your pillow case in the fridge). If you WFH the gel pillow can also rest very easily against the back of a chair of cushion and give you a bit of discreet cooling relief whilst you’re doing your virtual meetings.

    Invest in a cooling spray

    This can either be a specific cooling spray specific cooling spray or a water-based mist (like the Evian one thats been a cult fave since the 90s), I usually carry one of these as an everyday handbag essential year-round. Even a to-up spritz of your SPF if you’ve had it in the fridge (another tip on how to keep your SPF cool a bit further down) will feel refreshing.

    Crack out the thermal tumbler

    Thermal tumblers will usually keep things cold as well as hot, so use them out whilst weather is warm! They’re great for taking ice coffee/tea to the office (the one I’ve linked above is the one I have an use for this), or even just making sure you drink of water stays cold at home and the ice doesn’t melt in 0.6 seconds. I’m not sure if you’re supposed to do this, but I sometimes pop mine in the fridge for a little bit so that it’s also nice and cool to touch.

    Apply any kind of cucumber moisturiser

    Image credit: The Body Shop

    There’s a reason that people put slices or cucumber over their eyes (to cool and soothe them, just to be clear) and experience has taught me that applying anything containing cucumber onto my body literally makes my skin freeze. Aloe Vera gel that’s been in the fridge for a while also does the trick nicely.

    Ice pack your summer essentials on the go

    Pop some ice packs into the bag with your spf/cold drinks etc and they’ll stay cooler for longer whilst you’re out and about at the beach/park/shopping. Choose an ice pack that’s solid or has a robust outer layer so that it’s less likely to burst and soak all of your things.

    Go to the cinema

    This has been my secret weapon for years! On a hot day very few people will want to be there but usually they have air-con, massive cold drinks and comfy seats in a room with no windows. To me, it’s a no-brainer.

    Hopefully there’s something extra here that helps! In the meantime stay hydrated, top up your spf and wear something light and airy.

    Thanks for reading,

    J xx


  • And just like that… I’m sharing thoughts on the next chapter of the Sex and the City franchise

    …and just like that: Carrie and her pals have finished their latest run on the small screen.

    It’s been almost 2 weeks since the latest installment of the SATC franchise drew to a close, so you may argue I’m a bit late to the party in terms of sharing what I thought about it. Not so. I’ve merely decided to sit back, think about what I saw for a bit first rather than just react.

    What I liked

    • Fashion moments: Of course fashion was going to be on here; it’s part of the franchise’s charactet! I use the term ‘moments’ because there were a lot of looks I didn’t care for. But hey, fashion is subjective! My personal fashion highlight wpuld be that UNREAL orange moment on the Paris bridge – it was a quintessential Carrie Bradshaw look for finally saying goodbye to Big and reclaiming her sense of self as single woman.
    • Big’s early departure: For me, this hit the same way that Scream did when they killed off Drew Barrymore’s character in the first scene – unexpected twist that grips you into thinking “jeez, wtf else could happen after that? Better keep watching”. And, to be honest, there hasn’t been a single part of the SATC yet where Carried and Big have sailed through without something, has there? It took 6 series of making up and breaking up, the first film where he jilted her and she cut him out until then very end, the second film where she had insecurities and ended up kissing Aiden in Abu Dabi. Did we we really predict that they’d make it through this part of the story unscathed?

    What didn’t work for me

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    • Lack of development for the secondary friendships: for really the first time in the franchise, we saw main characters pursue and develop friendships outside of the group. But, for the majority of time at keast, those relationships didn’t really progress or be pivotal to the overall series. Dare I say that they appeared to be present merely to tick a few more boxes in helping to make the show more well-rounded? Not simply because of any ethnic representation, but to enhance the traits of those they were attached to. Seema was single in her 50s and struggling with it like Carrie. Lisa/LTW feeds into Charlotte’s image of being a ‘have it all and look effortless’ aspiration whilst still be human and having some wobbles behind the scenes. Nya represents the side of Miranda that’s studious and questioning over their life choices (in this case, having a child).
    • Miranda flip flopping her opinions: She was against pot, then it was fine providing she didn’t directly smoke it. She cheated on her husband when she used to find infidelity deplorable. She didn’t want to be in a conventional relationship but then tried to put herself in one. She wanted to study and help people with her legal knowledge but gave it up to support Che’s career ambitions in LA. She let her hair go grey (which I thought looked great, by the way) and was sticking 2 fingers up at societal pressure for women to “age gracefully”, but dies it back red at the end. I have some more thoughts and theories in the next section that help me rationalise some of her behaviour, but as a passive viewer wanting some light entertainment, it was kinda frustrating.
    • Brady’s sex scene: no, No, NO! Firstly, teenagers don’t have the knowledge or skill to be that gymnastic in the bedroom. I was a teenager once, I knew other teenagers, not a single one of us knew a male our age who had the sexual prowess of young Brady. It was also highly unnecessary – the show isn’t called sex and the city so sex wasn’t implied.

    What I feel came under undue criticism

    • Miranda leaving Steve: As an OG SATC fan, this kind of didn’t surprise me, it shouldn’t have surprised anyone really. Throughout their relationship Miranda has had bouts of uncertainty  about subscribing to the traditional paradigms of marriage and family life – she didn’t want to have children, have her child baptised, get married or buy a house outside of Manhattan. After submitting to all of those thing eventually, at some point she was always likely to swing back round and have some kind of self crisis about what her life had become. I read another article that described Miranda as Steve’s Mr Big in that he was always chasing after her as the not quite attainable figure to fit his ideal of the perfect life, and I can get on board with that. With regards to the cheating, a lot of people have levied claims of hypocrisy at Miranda as she got upset when Steve did it to her in the first film. Reading into this like the English/American Studies grad that I am; it could be argued that Steve’s prior indiscretion had altered her previous attitudes on fidelity and she now feels it can be justified if your relationship is unfulfilled. Steve wasn’t getting enough sex so he boinked a random, she felt unfulfilled and banged Carrie’s boss in the kitchen.
    • The main characters not having a firm grasp of modern day protocol: as hard as a lot of people try to be respectful of pronouns, sexuality and religion, we’re human and sometimes we get it wrong. It’s perfectly feasible that women in their mid-50s who haven’t had exposure to that kind of diversity before aren’t going to get it on the first go. But we saw the maim characters try to educate themselves in the best manner they knew how. I personally found this aspect of the show relatable; even though I’m 20 years younger I’ve shared a lot of the same thoughts and experiences. If the main characters would have had everything spot on throughout series, writers/producers would’ve been criticised for not portraying an authentic experience of that generation.

    Overall, I liked the series. Yes there were some bumps along the way (as many a good series have experienced before it) but be fair – its the first season of a show based on another show from the nineties trying to be relevant in the modern day whilst trying to stay true to the original heart and sole of the  brand. Its a tough sell, one that was always going to disappoint someone.

    So I couldn’t help but wonder: what’s next for ‘…And just like that’?

    I think the show will ‘carrie’ on to a second series. I think we may start to see one of those secondary character’s come into the fold more as a main character to bring back more of a foursome dynamic (I’m liking Seema for this as she has a Samantha Jones energy about her).

    I think we’ll see more of Carrie as she really starts to navigate her way through the dating scene again in her 50s (I don’t know if I see her staying with the hot producer guy but I would love it if she did) and how she combines her current experiences with her new podcast  which I think will become more like her column and start to gain traction amongst some of her OG readers as well as younger new listeners.

    I think that Miranda could have another crisis of confidence after returning from LA with Che; having put her goals on pause for somebody she loves and now questioning ‘what about me?’. I don’t think there’ll be anything groundbreaking happening for Charlotte, I think we’ll just see more of her going about her business and being Charlotte.

    Finally, I predict we won’t be seeing a re-cast of Samantha. After Carrie meets her for cocktails in Paris they’ll start to rekindle their friendship and continue their text relationship, which will become more frequent. Carrie will try and lean on Samantha to do more, to be more – come back to New York or be on her podcast etc, and that will refracture the relationship a little bit.

    So that’s me, keeping an balance mind and optimistic heart for the franchise to continue.

    Thanks for reading,

    J xx


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