Let’s Chat – October 2020

For those of you reading this in England: happy lockdown 2.0 day! Sheesh. I genuinely thought the second wave of Coronavirus would be much milder than the first, but at least this time we know what to expect so we can e prepared in our heads as well as our homes. We’ve done it once, we can do it again!

I’ve had a but of a bummer month (As you may have spotted in this blog post) so I’ve basically only worn PJs and the same 3 or 4 outfits to be cosy. I’ve been referring my summer dresses with tights and a polo neck to get a bit more wear from them so I don’t feel the need to buy any more clothes I don’t need!

  • Emily in Paris: I had to see what all the fuss is about. 2 episodes in, I wasn’t a fan, but I stuck with it and by the end I can I appreciated that she shed light on the importance of marketing to a business! The plot lines aside from work were a bit cliche (althpugh some of them a bit relatable to me) but I’ll be tuning in for season 2 to see if I can borrow some of her social media strategies.
  • Slasher (series 1): My second time watching this. This is a Netflix series about a woman who returns to her birth town to live in the home her parents were murdered in on Halloween night, and the obligatory carnage that ensues. It has a slightly different take and has a few sub plots too, definitely worth a watch. There are another 2 series featuring the same cast but completely different stories.
  • Friday the 13th: Which one? You ask. Pretty much all of them! Its a Halloween tradition that every weekend we watch a couple. They kind of annoy me with how cliche they look nowadays, but I still put them on.
  • Halloween reloaded: Are we sensing a theme here? It is October!
  • Visited a pumpkin patch: after 6 years of blogging, I finally went all basic bitch and went to a pumpkin patch! Obviously my primary aim was to take pics, but I did also buy a few pumpkins to carve and decorate my house with for the month. Thanks to my gal Kat for suggesting the trip!
  • Halloween capers: we popped to my sister in law’s house before for an early spooky/fireworks gathering for 5. We enjoyed some Frankenstein Colin the Caterpillar mini rolls, star shaped sparklers and wrapping the boys up as mummies in toilet roll (before people lost their shit and started stockpiling it. Again.)

And that, my friends, is pretty much it! Who knows what the month of November holds (well, it’ll definitely involved Christmas shopping and putting my tree up, but apart from that…). Stay home, stay safe, but reach out if you’re struggling. We all have to be here for each other where we can.

Thanks for reading,

J xx


Self chore, or self care?

Is it just me, or does the thought of doing simple things for yourself just sometimes feel like yet another item to add to your very long adulting list?

By simple, I include (but am not limited to) the following tasks: have a shower wash my hair, take my makeup off, make a cup of tea…instead, the thought of doing anything else in the day stresses you out to the point where you just kind of slump on the couch and do nothing, when in that time you could’ve just done the thing?

So, its this thought process that has convinced me this is why a lot of people don’t have very much ‘self care’ built into their day to day lives. Our over worked, 21st century brains have autoprogrammed our thoughts to class this as a chore, something more we have to factor in to our already busy lives. The problem perhaps isn’t having the time, it’s our wired little brain.

Because of lockdown, I forcibly took time out this year which drastically cut down on the amount of things I had to do. So, I ended up doing a lot of the things I usually can’t be bothered to do (within the realms of social distancing and lockdown) that made me feel very happy and relaxed. I sat in the garden and had a cup of coffee, did face masks, had some leisurely hots showers…hell; I even cracked out the ol’ foot spa and gave my trotters some needed attention!

Now the world has reopened somewhat, and I’m still managing to do all of these things, when I couldn’t seem to before. What’s changed? My thought process. I’ve reframed these tasks in my head and compartmentalised them in correct place: things I like to do that make me feel nice. I’ve also started doing them at different times of day that fit in with my life now, rather than leaving everything until the end of the day/week when it feels like effort. Now, rather than my mood determining whether I do self care activities, I do self care activities to determine my mood. And you know what? Its bloody glorious.

I know everybody has different commitments, different lifestyles, different environments, but every one of us needs to have just a little bit of time for ourselves on a semi regular basis in order to remain both sane and productive humans. Whether you call it self care/me time/time out/a little break and whatever you choose to do with that time, do it.

Self care isn’t a revolutionary concept, but how we address within ourselves could be the key to truly unlocking its real potential.

Thanks for reading,

J xx


Surviving October

Hey friends, hope you’re all doing well. We’re all obviously going through a variety of things in our topsy turvy, midst of a global pandemic so what exactly are we allowed to do Boris lifestyles, however today I want to chat about more of a long standing concern thats rearing it’s less than attractive head in my life right now.

The autumnal slump.

For the past few years, I’ve had an extremely difficult time in the month of October (and sometimes a little beyond). I become tired, listless, depressed and emotional, basically like an extreme case of PMT for a whole 31 days. Like clockwork – September ends, October hits and within days I’m like a completely different person. I’ve never sought a specific form of diagnosis, but I imagine Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) would be the closest thing to what I seem to go through.

Each year I have braced and tried to prepare myself to no avail, however this year I seem to be winning the fight a little bit. I’m still tired and a little disinterested in life away from the office, but the depression and emotion seem to be staying at bay for now. So, what’s changed? Well, I’m in a much stronger position in life for one. I had some much needed time out during Furlough to figure out what I wanted and needed out of my life, I’ve gone headlong into a new job, am around nice people a lot more often and have plenty if things to look forward to in my life.

Simply reminding myself of the good things in my life goes a long way, however also reminding myself that sometimes I can’t win 100% of the battle is just as big a comfort. During the slightly more difficult feeling times, I aim for the small wins – small bitty tasks that take little concentration but can be taken off the to do list, or a longer repetitive task that I can just lose myself in for a few hours. Trash tv, hot shower, huge bowl of pasta, brisk walk to blow off some of the internal cobwebs, all things that reduce the effects of the slump.

If I’ve been a little absent of late; not posting as much or showing up on social media, this is the reason why. As soon as I’m reset I’ll be back on the regular with posts, pics and probably Tik Toks galore! I hope to see you then.

Thanks for reading,

J xx


Let’s Chat – September 2020

Say hey to October everyone!

In the month when I RETURNED TO WORK….well that’s the biggest thing that’s happened to be honest. Sorry for the spoiler, please keep reading to the end!!

This month’s outfits have mainly been office attire (most of it not new and still fit from pre-lockdown, yay). I also picked up a couple of new bits including this pair of dresses from Next at the bottom of the pic, which I have been obsessed with ever since.

  • Outcry: You catch up with this one on Sky documentary, and you should. It’s a documentary about a high school footballer is accused of molesting a child and what happens after that. My though process was driven wild throughout and I didnt fully form an opinion until the last episode (there are 5)
  • Gogglebox: It’s back! This may be my favourite series yet now I’ve watched it a while and gotten to know the cast over the series.
  • The Duchess: Written, produced by and starring comedian Katherine Ryan (I’m fairly sure its loosely based on her life) the six-parter follows the journey of a single mum trying to have a second baby in the midst of criticism over her circumstances and relationship woes. I really enjoyed it, and of you enjoy Katherine’s sense of humour and outlook you will too.
  • Michael McIntyre: His new live dropped onto Nteflix this month (kind of wish he’d have released it a few months ago when we were bored in the house bored in the house bored) after we’d seen one of his warm up gigs in Hull shortly before lockdown.
  • Ran through a corn field (see my title image): Theresa May eat your heart out! Not quite as carefree as all of that, I just met up with Kat and we took some photos for our Instagrams, made a couple of Tik Tok videos and had some food. Always a pleasure to spend time with that one
  • Started a new job: I’m back in full time business baby!! As you read this I’ll be at the end of my fourth week, and so far so good. I wrote a blog post last week about job hunting during a global pandemic where I shared my experiences and a couple of tips if you fancy a read.
  • Had some date nights out: We actually made a concerted effort to get dressed up and have a couple of nice meals out (just in case everything closes again for a while). It was really nice just to enjoy each others company, eat some nice food and just enjoynthe atmosphere.
  • Fresh nails: Following a DIY mishap (I tried the foam mirror thing) I had to have my acrylic holiday nails removed, so I went for gel on my natural nails in a cute colour with a spotty design.

That’s pretty much it for this month! I hope you’re all well, staying safe and are looking forward to the autumn months. Maybe some light at the end of the current COVID tunnel??

Thanks for reading,

J xx


Job hunting during a global pandemic

In June, I was invited on the radio to talk about staring down the barrel of redundancy as a result of everybody’s best mate, Coronavirus. I had just been given notice by my employer and by the end of July I was without a job and no imminent prospect if another was on the horizon.

Fast forward to a week ago. I was invited back on the same radio show to talk about finding a job during the current economic downturn caused by Cornonavirus. Because now, my friends, I’m back in employment. It took five weeks, a lot of effort and a bit of luck, but I’m very aware it’s not been this way for everyone. So, I’m going to share the words of wisdom that helped me through in the hope that they may help one of you reading this. I truly hope it does.


Remind yourself ‘someone has employed me before and will do again’.

It may take a little bit if time, but you know it’s true.

Remain as positive and consistent in your job search as you can.

Sounds a bit of a silly thing to start with, right?It will happen, it may just takenna little time. When you haven’t been in a routine for a while (you may have been on Furlough or lost your job early on in lockdown) so establishing a job hunting routine is very helpful. Pick the days/times/places you’re going to search and do at least that every single week until you dobt have to. I created a Trello board to document my whole search which I would highly recommend – I had lists to record where I’d applied, when I applied and what stage I got to (1st interview, 2nd interview/awaiting feedback, unsuccessful, no reply so abandoned after 6 week). It’s a visual reminder of what roles you’re looking and where you’re at, which helps to focus things a bit more.


Remember your positive qualities, your strengths and (most importantly) your worth.

You have skills, things you’re really good at, things you may be able to do better than a lot of other people. Remind yourself of what they are and tell prospective employers you have them. We’re not programmed to blow our own trumpet but you have to just go for it – if you don’t tell an employer what you can do, they won’t automatically know, and you may lose out to someone else who isn’t afraid to say those things. When I interviewed for the job I actually got, I took a ‘balls to the wall’ approach as I had nothing to lose – I strutted into the office, told them I could do the job and explained he should give me the job because I could do it better than the other people he’d seen. Although a bit taken aback, he admired the approach and offered my the position on the spot. Knowing your worth is the most important part of this whole thing. You are worth just as much now in the job market as you were before, so don’t let employers take advantage of your need for a jib and offer you less than this. Depending on what you got up to during lockdown you could even be worth more- if you took some training courses, learnt a language or mastered any new skill related to the jobs you’re going for, that could increase you value even more.

This next bit may sound a bit cheesy, but this really could be the opportunity you were waiting for rather than the threat you were dreading.

If you’re currently in this situation, I wish you the best of luck with the next step of your journey. You got this!

Thanks for reading,

J xx


Why the 00s was one of the best decades ever and I won’t hear another bad word about it

I’ve seen a LOT of trash talk online lately about the 00s (which, for these purposes, is 2000-2009). They’re mocking the way we dressed, the way we did our makeup…and yeah, I admit some of those trends were a little out there when looking back, but what about the other stuff?

I’ve had enough. I’m fighting back. Im showing these naysayers (most of whom were only just born in the 00s or not much before) why I’m proud to have lived through the 00s, and why its probably one of my fave decades so far

I consider the 00s ‘my era’ of music, it was all so damn cool back then. Garage music hit the mainstream, spearheaded by The Artful Dodger who helped to launch the career or one Mr Craig David, who the young ‘uns today (and those of us who remember him first time round) go crazy for. R ‘n B blew up on this side of the pond, thanks to both stalwarts like Mary J. Blige and newbies like Aaliyah and Kelis. We met Lady Gaga, re-met Kylie Minogue and did NOT look good in the dancefloor throwing shapes to Arctic Monkeys. Also, how can you mock an era that gave us BeyoncĂ©’s solo career??

The 2000s is one of THE defining eras for chick flicks and love stories that are still heavily quoted on the daily. During lockdown, Tik Tok was filled with creators getting their cheer on a la Bring It On (2000), releasing their inner Sophie or Donna from Mama Mia (2008) and share their love of all things pink like the Mean Girls (2004). This was also the decade that blessed us with Elle Woods, Bridget Jonesand a fairly decent amount of both Sandra Bullock and Anne Hathaway. Until then we didn’t know the devil wore Prada, that pants could travel as a sisterhood or girls were just as good at football. And we discovered that Love, Actually is all around us

Forget what you’ve read or seen, the 00s in fact blessed us with some fashion moments that left us shooketh for the right reasons!

  • J-Lo in the Valentino jungle print dress
  • Kylie Minogue in gold hot pants
  • The Alexander McQueen skull scarf
  • The universally flattering halterneck (WHY hasn’t this come back around yet, though I see that Bella Hadid is giving it a go)
  • Bedazzled hair clips (I see y’all doing that now on the ‘gram)

This is just a snapshot of the good stuff! I know there are some questionable things to look back on – dresses over jeans, velour tracksuits, liberal use of blue eyeshadow…but the world forgave the 80s for their misgivings so now its the turn of the 2000s to get some redemption. You know I’m right!

Thanks for reading,

J xx


Let’s Chat – August 2020

Well THAT was a bit of a busy month! Holiday, celebrations, and….Tik Tok fame?? I unintentionally had a month off from writing any posts as a result, but it’s September now so back to school it is!

(AD| Gifted – some of the items in this collage were given to me as part of a new brand collaboration, which I’ll talk about more below)

  • Hamilton: I managed to bag a free 6 month subscription to Disney+ (thanks O2) so the first thing I did was watch this to see what the hype was about! I enjoyed it and the songs are very catchy, it’s quite lengthy so I don’t think I’ll be watching it again for a while.
  • First Dates: Another one of those ‘why didn’t we watch this before’ programmes. Guess I’m just meant to be a few yeata behind the times with my viewing pleasure!
  • Semi-Detached: The new sitcom by Lee Mack. Not his usual style and I’m not a fan of it after 2 eps.
  • We’re Here: the power of drag with those who don’t fit in or have suffered hard times. Can’t get through an ep without balling.
  • Secured some regular freelance work: as you may remember from my June post, I’ve been made redundant from my full time day job. As part of a completely separate interaction, a brand I like found my blog, liked my writing style and asked if I would be interested in doing some work for them. I snapped their hand off and so far I am loving it! I thought a lot about transitioning to full time at the end of last year, but the planning and timing didn’t feel quite right. Maybe it is now?
  • Made a balloon arch: One of my besties turned 40 at the start of lockdown so we had some bekayed celebeations and decided to get some extra little touches to make it special for her. She’s a massive fan of leopard print so we made that out theme and got a cake, decorations and photo props to match. The final piece de resistance (if I do say so myself) was a 12m balloon arch that I made and fitted all by myself (I bought a kit on Amazon). I also made her a Vogue cover from the trend that was going round a couple of months ago and put it in a frame.
  • Had an afternoon tea picnic: …and the spot my friend chose ended up being right next to our local COVID testing site!
  • Aunty duty: because of the school holidays and my current ‘not in full time permanent employment’ sitch I’ve had my niece and nephew for a few days this month while their parents have been at work. It’s been lovely to soend more time with them but damn is it tiring. How do you full time parents do this??
  • Went on holiday: As I mentioned last month, we booked a holiday to Zakynthos, and low and behold we actually went! Not without a couple of hiccups though – our hotel decided not to open so we were moved to another in the middle of nowhere which wasn’t suitable for us, then a possible quarantine for Greece was discussed which would have hindered the Mr going back to work. The answer? Bring the trip forward by 2 weeks and move to another hotel closer to the action. There was no quarantine when we came back and we got to go away when the weather went a bit rubbish again in the UK, wins all round! You can read more about our experience in my previous blog post here.
  • I *may* have gone Tik Tok viral?: I say may because I don’t know how many views you need to be classes as viral, but all of a sudden this month some of my videos blew up! At the time of writing I’ve inexplicably gained 6.5k followers (a number I could only dream of on IG) and some of my videos have been watched tens of thousands of tines (again, something I can only dream of on IG) one with over 275k views. WTF? Who knew that dancing like an idiot in your husband’s dressing gown would be so appreciated…

Thanks for reading

J xx


Let’s Chat- July 2020

Quick question: WHERE DID THE SUN GO?? I know we had an extra lovely Spring, but now we can do more socialising the rain needs to do one!

You’ll notice I’ve worn a lot of the same stuff this month – it’s stuff I like and we’re all meant to be shopping more consciously these days (though admittedly I’ve made a fair few new purchases this month) so that’s why!

  • Book of Mormon soundtrack
  • Unsolved Mysteries: It’s a series of programmes rather than a series, so you don’t have to watch all of them (or in the right order) to follow any of the stories. A range of topics from mysterious deaths to UFOs are covered so a little something for all conspiracy or crime buffs.
  • Canada Drag Race: I very much enjoyed it, the lack of RuPaul hasn’t felt off for me at all. There are some great queens so if you’re a drag race fan I’d recommend watching.
  • The Festival: a film by the makers of The Inbetweeners (also starring some of the cast from the TV show and film) that follows 2 new graduates in their first trip to a festival with inevitable mixture embrassing and life defining moments
  • Got my hair done: The day my hairdresser was back open for business, I was the second appointment in her chair. My split ends had gotten a bit crazy and my blonde a bit too brassy, but now everything is smoother and brighter and feeling great for summer.
  • Went out for food: I wanted to wait a little after everything opened to ensure I felt comfortable, so about a week afterwards we treated ourselves to Sunday lunch at one of our favourite local restaurants. People in my local area seem to be behaving very sensibly so I needn’t have worried, the scenes shown in Central London and Bournemouth are absolutely not the case in East Yorkshire!
  • Bought a tonne of new beauty and skin care products: ALDI brought out loads of products that were meant to be high end dupes, I was instantly influenced and ran out to my local to snap up as many as I could! I posted the results on my Tik Tok if you want to see how I got on.
  • Booked a holiday: after missing out on two during lockdown and seeing other people’s experiences of foreign travel, we decided to book a week away in Zakynthos (Zante) for the end of the summer. It gives hotels chance to get into their stride with new measures, and we trust completely that the tour operator will not allow us to travel if they deem it unsafe. I will probably do some kind of travel post as I usually would as well as posting on social media, so you’ll see how we get on.

Lots to look forward to in August, let’s go!

Thanks for reading,

J xx


Muddle Age

Getting older. It’s a funny thing isn’t it? The general consensus is that we spend most of our childhoods willing the years away until we become adults and can do cool things like not go to school, go to the pub and wear what we want. Then at some point, we flip the script, we realise how carefree and easy we had it as a youth and yearn for the days of ‘being young’ again. Admit it; some of the things you love most now are things that felt like a punishment as a kid – taking naps, going to bed early, putting your PJs…please say that this isn’t just me!

Different stages come with different ages – baby, toddler, tween, teenager, young adult, middle aged and pensioner. But what about that huge grey area in between? That’s exactly where I am right now.

Picture the scenario: you’re not exactly classed as young any more (I’m not sure at exactly what age this label is officially cut) but you’re definitely not middle aged (though there’s also some debate about when exactly that kicks in) so what are you? Today, I’m officially christening this stage of life ‘muddle age’.

A muddle aged person is that transition between youth and ‘there’s no mistaking I’m a fully fledged adult’. We like to go out with our friends and have fun, but we may prefer to do it in the day/afternoon so we can get to bed at a decent time. We may be allowed adult things such mortgages, but spend a lot of time trying to cover up the fact we still have a mental age of 21 (or, in my case, 16). We still enjoy makeup and clothes but we also enjoy home interiors and nice looking gardens to relax in after a long day of adulting.

Any of this sounding familiar? Welcome to muddle age dear reader, enjoy it with me!

Thanks for reading,

J xx


Random things I discovered about life and myself during lockdown

Yep; you read what sounds like the start of a very profound, slight hippy dippy blog post in that title…but thats not my style!

We’re going more along the ramblings and random musings route that I did in this post last year . I know lockdown isn’t fully over yet but who knows when I’d have published this if I waited for it to end completely….

  • I can do some basic levels of DIY, but I’d rather pay someone else to do it for me
  • Messiness stresses me out
  • I prefer to eat cake rather than bake it
  • A fairly pared back, slow pace of life suits me nicely and is great for my mental health
  • I do in fact have common sense. In some cases, more than some senior government officials (tbf I think a large majority of us can claim this)
  • Its sometimes easier to observe than create what you see in the Internet (specifically Tik Tok) but its fun to try
  • Workouts come in various forms – walking, vigorous decorating or learning the latest viral dance
  • I wear a lot of print. Mainly floral and leopard
  • People will use a global pandemic as a golden opportunity to ‘legitimately’ make their lives easier, and other peoples lives harder as a result
  • I’m a dab hand at covering my roots with a bit of box dye and an unused foundation brush (if you’re reading Chelsea, sorry!)
  • It is possible to teach an old dog new tricks. If that dog is your parents/grandparents and the trick is going on Houseparty for a weekly catch up
  • My Spanish speaking skills aren’t quite as basic as I thought, but my written Spanish still sucks a little bit

And just one more…..

Thanks for reading,

J xx