I first saw Sex and the City when I was about 18, and last year I made a pilgrimage to Carrie Bradshaw’s famous stoop whilst on holiday in New York City. Even at the age of 34, 16 years late, I was still beyond excited to pay it a visit.
Although I’m asking this question as a die-hard SATC fan, I can’t help but wonder (see what I did there? Hehe.) if asking it out loud makes me sound a bit judgey/traitor-ish, or merely philosophical. I suppose what I’m really trying to ask is this: if the women of this generation watched the show, how much of it would resonate in the context of society today?
Blooming heck; I feeling the English graduate in me coming out a bit here…but this isn’t going to be an academic essay applying any kind of critical theory, promise! I’m merely going to chat about some of my fave quotes from the show and see if they’re still a thing. K? Let’s do this….
This is DEFINITELY still a thing, it’s sooooo a thing! We see this assertion from men on reality shows all the time – If a woman has a alternative opinion, she’s a bitch. Not simpering over a man? Bitch. If women don’t act in accordance with male expectation, they’re referred to as either a bitch or “on the blob”. Because it couldn’t possibly be their problem could it? Don’t be silly.
This is one that should still be relevant, but that women of today can struggle to accept because of our friend social media. We all see the perfect girls on Insta, our own Natasha’s if you will, and feel just a little inadequate that we can’t quite nail it like they can. But sometimes they can’t, we just don’t see that, but there’s a definite movement to raise up womankind and celebrate “imperfections” (or as I call them “what you look like irl”) which will hopefully get society back to a more Carrie frame of mind.
Social media is definitely responsible for making this more of a problem than ever before! How many times have you thought “I can’t wear that, I’ve been seen wearing it on Facebook/Twitter/Snapchat/Insta” because I’ve thought this A LOT over the past 10 years. That’s probably why I’ve had a borderline online shopping obsession and constantly have suitcases full of clothes to sell or donate. Thanks to celebs like Kate Middleton it’s becoming more acceptable to ‘shop in your own closet’ again and re-wear items (though if I was paying as much as her for a frock I’d be wearing it multiple times too) and I’ve noticed a few YouTuber styling videos based on pieces they already own, so I think is one is going to make a brief u-turn…before we go back to the same old dilemma. Can’t resist the lure of a New In section!
Men; mocking the things they do not understand and cannot appreciate. Luckily for us, fashion is subjective and it doesn’t usually matter. Although I do have times where I dress because I’d like the Mr to think I look nice, primarily I dress for me. Oh, and for other women. Hehe.
This quote has two current meanings attached for me. The first is the currently trendy “I don’t want to be around other humans; I’m gonna stay in and communicate using only the mediums of reality tv and food delivery apps” which is kinda cute and not entirely concerning. However, I’m present day society a statement like this could also be symptomatic isolating oneself due to their mental health, which is troubling. It’s fine to have time out for yourself, but don’t feel as if you have to be alone because you think you’re a burden or that nobody will care. They do, promise. We should all make sure we have each other’s backs as much as possible.
She’s not wrong – we should all have the guts to channel a little of Samantha’s confidence. I’ve always been a firm believer that what you wear on the outside can have a huge impact on how you feel inside, which will the help to improve you state of mind – so pull on your favourite outfit, take a look in the mirror and think “yass queen” before strutting out of the house to show the world who’s boss!
Although everything in this post is still pretty relevant, I’m very aware that there are things I haven’t mentioned that would raise more eyebrows today than perhaps they did back then – casual racism (remember when Samantha dated the black music producer, and dated the rich man with the Asian maid) and the portrayal of ethnic minorities in lesser skilled roles (with the Lucy Liu cameo as the only notable exception) are just a couple of examples, however I believe that the overall vibe of female empowerment and independence most definitely sits well within the current issues facing women in society.
So what do you think; am I right or wrong? Which episode still resonates the most with you and why? Don’t leave a gal hanging; shout me out in comments below!
Thanks for reading,