Being married for a decade

“I married him, reader”

On this day a whole decade ago, I signed a piece of paper in front of forty or so people saying I was willing to share my life with one other person. That’s a fairly formal way of saying “it’s my ten year wedding anniversary today, eek!”

I know what you’re thinking no “Jenny, you only look about 25. Where you a child bride?” and to that I’d blush sweetly and say thank you. The answer I’m afraid is no, I’m simply quite juvenile and camera filters have improved over the past few years…

The other thing that’s improved in that time is my ability to reflect, so today, in honor of this milestone, I’m sharing with you what being in a long term relationship has taught me.

You’re not a gold digger if your partner pays for more things than you. This might sounds ridiculous, or old fashioned, take it as you will, but when the Mr and I first started going out one of his ‘friends’ said he should watch himself around me because I was I gold digging bitch. I was furious, and at the time it was highly untrue (he lived in MY house and our incomes were pretty similar). Over the years our salaries, jobs and approach to paying for our lifestyle have changed a lot, and between us we have agreed what we are both happy with. I’m secure in the fact that he sometimes pays for more because he wants to, and he’s fully aware that I’d be aiming for someone older and richer if I was in fact after money. At least I think he’s aware of that.

I still find myself surprised by how much he loves me. Just when I think he’s told me or showed me in all the ways possible, he will say or do something that makes me sit back and go “wow, I didn’t know you cared that much”.

I still wear the trousers when I need to. My hubby is a LOT more opinionated and strong than people give him credit for in our relationship (people presume that because I’m more talkative he is therefore passive. Nope, not even close!) but that doesn’t mean there are times when he sees the benefit of sending me to bat when there’s a time I’m likely to make a stronger point or get a better result. I’m a very constructive complainer (yes, that’s a thing) and am less shy about being assertive in public, so I tend to handle the more difficult situations that need that kind of approach.

I gained the biggest cheerleader I’ve ever had. Don’t get me wrong, my mum is an amazing lady and has done a cracking job of inspiring and lifting me up, but she’s no longer at home for me every single day to pick me up off the floor if things are a bit rubbish or talk through my many random musings and ideas.

You can have a wonderfully close and healthy relationship without seeing each other on the toilet. Look; I’m not a prude, I know he poos and he knows I do, but I have zero desire to witness it unless of medical emergency.

Don’t get me wrong, there are also sometimes negative things to a long term relationship too – I’m not going to talk about those here because there really are very few of them, and if any were that bad I wouldn’t be writing this post at all!

I feel extremely lucky to have my Husband in my life. He’s a decent bloke who is very clever, insightful and kind. He’s also silly as hell, but that’s only a side I get to see (which is a real shame because he’s hilarious). Here’s to the next 10 years and beyond!

Thanks for reading,

J xx


FASHION/ #HowIWearMyLove

Last year I was lucky enough to win a competition with one of my fave brands, ILWF, to receive a piece of clothing every month for a year. How exciting! Sadly, that year is over, but I wanted to share with you the pieces I picked and how I wore them (along with some of the memories!)

Baby(doll) Love

Worn on holiday August 2014 in Turkey for a delicious romantic meal out with Mr Alice 

A Floral Frock for a Solstice Birthday Gurl

Worn on my Birthday night out with the girls. The DJ wouldn’t play my birthday song at midnight (50 Cent In Da Club)

 J-Lo? Try J-Bar!

Swishy and fab! Also came with me to Turkey and out on a slightly tipsy night, the locals were shouting “oh my god, it’s Jennifer Lopez!” As I strutted (stumbled) through the streets of Kusadasi. Maybe they were drunker?!

 Jumpin’ Jumpin’

One of my fave A/W looks of last year. The cream phone boxes are something of a Hull phenomenon, we dance to the beat of our own drum here! This look was selected as an Editor’s Pick on Femail’s Today I’m Wearing.



Top of the Crops

I felt like I was channelling my fave Clueless in this crop top! I also bought the matching skater skirt, gorgeous texture and quality.

Wrap it Uuuup

This pic was taken by the lovely people at Hull Daily Mail when I featured in an article back in October (along with my #HullBloggers girly Charley). I was trying to be a pro and ignore the builders staring at me! You can shop the new season lilac version Here

Check it Out

This was the look I wore to the #HullBloggers event in December, my favourite festive event aside from Christmas. So lucky to have made friends in these lovely girls.

Wrap it up Some More!

Haven’t we sent this before? Yup, I liked it so much I had to get an A/W version. This look was also selected by Femail’s Today I’m Wearing as an Editor’s Pick. This dress is still in stock, click Here to buy!

Grey ‘n Glam

This jumpsuit is sooo flattering and chic whilst being really comfy, a real holy grail! It’s still available to buy Here

You’re Making Me Blush

I wore this for an Easter Day out with Mr Alice along the #hull Marina. It was perfect because the sun was shining but it was still a bit chilly so the long sleeves and high neck kept the chill out, but the crepe material meant I wasn’t too warm. It can be bought with a matching skirt and in a few different colours, but this gorgeous shade is still available Here

 

Play Time

Worn for a recent day out with the girls shopping and blogging. Gorgeous colour for the summer and the material feels really luxurious and chiffon 

 

All of these items have featured in their own blog posts between June and April if you want to read them, and most ILWF pieces can be bought in Top Shop and ASOS too. I still have one piece left to style and wear but o. Saving that for my trip to Vegas so keep you eye out for it.

Hope you’ve enjoyed seeing how I wear my Love, how do you wear yours?

Stay Stylish 

J 😘xx


FASHION/ Let’s Play

 I’m not normally a huge playsuit fan, I’m always worried about the fit around the body and the shorts being too short on me. However I found this one that’s a similar style to a wrap dress I own (you probably know the one) so I thought I’d try pushing myself by trying it (having tried one on holiday last year, which seemed less scary). 

*disclaimer- no matter how good the photographer, sadly they can’t do anything about my questionable facial expressions!*          

Photos by the lovely Beckie taken in Old Town, Hull

As its a daytime look I thought dressing it down with #Converse would be good even though the shoulder detail makes it feel a more glam. I never intended to buy them; I tried them on a whim when looking for a  different pair of and the shop assistant innocently said “they’re like mermaid shoes” SOLD! They are pretty special for a daytime shoe. You probably can’t see, but I’m also sporting my Ombre lip colour as featured in my last post (refresh you memories here) The lighter colour is a near perfect match to the playsuit. 

Playsuit- ILWF at Top Shop/ Pumps- Converse at Schuh (sold out in this colour online, gold version here

If I was wearing this as an evening look I’d switch out the shoes for my other favourite mermaid numbers courtesy of  Missguided as featured in my Let’s Disco post last month. 

How would you style this playsuit?

Stay Stylish

J 😘xx